I’ve been saving money since my husband passed away, determined not to become a burden on anyone in my later years. I was clear with my son about this savings—it’s meant for my funeral and emergencies only. So when he got engaged without telling me and asked for money to pay for the wedding, I was shocked. He recently lost his job and just assumed I’d fund his big day because I have savings. I told him I can’t drain that money and he has to think responsibly about his choices.
He didn’t take it well. He said if I’m not happy to help now, I’ll never meet his future children. Hearing those words from my own son broke my heart. I raised him, supported him through college, and now it feels like none of that matters unless I hand over my savings. I don’t want to be the villain, but it’s my money and my security.
I told myself to stay firm and not get dragged into arguments over justifying my decision. I love my son and want to support him emotionally, but I won’t sacrifice my safety for his wedding plans. It’s important to set boundaries even when it’s painful.
This ordeal has been emotionally draining, and I’ve leaned on friends for support. Protecting myself doesn’t mean I love him any less. I hope he eventually understands that my savings are for my future, not for covering his mistakes.
