I work in HR at a large company and genuinely love my job—helping people and tackling challenges every day. But recently, my boss crossed a line that left me feeling small and disrespected. She had some guests in her office and then came out like I was her personal assistant, telling me to make and serve coffee to them. I was stunned and froze for a moment—this wasn’t part of my job. I said, “That’s not really my job.” She shot me a death stare and said, “I pay you, so I can ask you to do anything.” I was embarrassed, angry, and unsure if standing up for myself was worth it.
Yet, I know I worked hard to get where I am, and I’m HR—not a barista or personal waitress. My boss’s comment wasn’t about payment; it was about disrespecting my professional role. I realized boundaries at work aren’t optional—they’re survival. Saying no here doesn’t mean I’m difficult; it means I demand respect.
I’ve learned not to gaslight myself into thinking I’m overreacting. If something makes you feel small or disrespected, that feeling is valid. Trust yourself and your boundaries. Sometimes you can respond neutrally—like “I’ll focus on my HR duties now”—to redirect without conflict, but firm lines are essential. No one deserves to be diminished at work.
This experience reinforced that maintaining professional boundaries protects your peace and career. I’m grateful I stood up for myself, even though it was uncomfortable. Others in HR face similar struggles balancing respect and workplace demands. I’m not here to fetch coffee—I’m here to support employees and the company, and I intend to be respected as such.
