My parents faced financial ruin after accumulating serious debt and having to sell their home. Desperate, I asked my husband, a landlord, if they could stay in one of his rental properties rent-free until they got back on their feet. His response shattered me—he refused to bend on the price. He told my parents directly that they had to pay full rent or find somewhere else, essentially rubbing their misfortune in their faces. His coldness hurt deeply, especially since he could have afforded to help just a little.
I tried to make him understand how important this was to me and how I would never hesitate to help his parents if roles were reversed. But his unwillingness to show any generosity or empathy worried me about our future and whether he’d ever support me in tough times.
With no help coming from him, I looked for other solutions—asking relatives if my parents could stay or even preparing myself to have them live at my own house. His attitude has left me feeling isolated and questioning our marriage.
I love my husband but this lack of compassion is a red flag. Living with someone unwilling to help your family in crisis causes pain and resentment. I’m considering my options, knowing that kindness and partnership should be the foundation of a marriage.