My son invited me to join his family on a 10-day trip to Italy. I was excited at first and looked forward to exploring a new country. But when I arrived, I realized my daughter-in-law expected me to stay in the hotel room the entire time and babysit their three young kids, aged 7, 5, and 2. I told her, “I’m not a walking daycare! I want to see the sights and enjoy the trip, not be stuck in a hotel babysitting.” She flat-out told me, “Then don’t come! I’ll hire a nanny.” I felt shocked and hurt by this cold response.
That night, I booked a seat on the same flight and reserved a room at the same hotel—paying my way, without telling them. When I revealed I was coming too, my daughter-in-law froze. My son begged me to watch the kids, claiming it was expected of me as a grandmother. I didn’t answer—I simply walked away. Now, I plan to enjoy the trip but avoid interaction with them as much as possible. I need them to see that I’m more than just a childcare provider; I’m a person who deserves to enjoy life.
Their behavior opened my eyes to how family vacations can become a source of tension when expectations aren’t aligned. I refuse to be taken for granted or treated like a servant, especially after years of support and help. Family time should be about enjoyment and connection—not obligation and resentment. My dignity and comfort come first.
I keep wondering if I’m wrong to treat them as strangers during the trip, but I’m firm on my boundaries. I want to be respected as a grandmother and a woman with her own life and desires. Maybe this experience will teach them to appreciate me more and rethink how they treat family. For now, I’m standing up for myself and my happiness.